I’m genuinely concerned about my children’s self-esteem. There are so many people with low self-esteem that affect and hurt others with high self-esteem, and I don’t want my children to be like that. According to RAE, self-esteem is the one’s own positive estimation. Without any scientific knowledge or proof, I think people with high self-esteem live happier lives, like themselves better, accept themselves, and usually see the half glass full. So let’s try to help our children to feel that way! One way we can do so is by the following 10 tips:
Tell them what they are good at. All people are good at something, whether it’s building a paper airplane, math, sports, listening to others… You just have to discover your skills and take full advantage of them. We have to reinforce in our children that everyone is good at something, no matter what.
Surround them with positive people. Grandparents are a good example because they usually see the best in their grandchildren. On the other hand, being around someone with a bad attitude towards life and low self-esteem is frustrating and negatively affects children’s self-esteem.
Help them to know themselves. It is very important that children know their strengths and weaknesses to have a better understanding of their potential and what they are capable of doing.
Assist them with coping with their failures. Society tends to paint the ultimate goal in life as success, which leaves no room to deal with failures. Yet, failure is a part of life, and helping children learn how to overcome difficulties makes them stronger.
Encourage them to have healthy habits. Doing sports and eating healthy helps people to feel good about and have a better image of themselves.
Tell them how much you love them and be positive. The more children feel loved, the more they will love themselves; the better you perceive them the better they perceived themselves. Do you remember your own childhood? Your parents telling you that “you are precious”?
Autonomy. Children should learn to do things by themselves so don’t try to fix things for them. Let them help themselves at home, order for themselves at restaurants, at a store, etc.
Don’t compare them. Each child is unique, so telling them that they are not “as good” as others –siblings, cousins, or friends- only makes them feel bad about themselves. My children are very different in many things, so why compare them? “Comparisons are tedious”.
Set limits. Children should know the limits of their actions, and we should educate them so they can learn that they can’t do everything they want. Positive reinforcement doesn’t mean no limits, it means to learn to improve their good actions.
Reinforce their accomplishments. Aren’t you tired of repeating the same things over and over? “Don’t fight with your siblings, do homework, brush your teeth…” But how many times have you heard yourself saying “you did a great job making your bed this morning”?
Looks like we have homework, don’t we? I hope you’ve enjoyed this. Please bear in mind that I’m not an expert or psychologist. I used the help of research to create this post since I consider raising children happy with themselves and with their lives very important.